We feel we must get on in the world. So don’t let us waste our time. Well, what is waste of time?
Sleep is not waste of time. It is a biological necessity. It is the same with rest. What of leisure? We must sleep. We must take a rest. But with leisure there is a matter of choice. We can take it or not as we please.
If we sleep, we sleep. If we take a rest, we rest. But leisure is different in that there are so many ways we can take our leisure.
In matters in which we are able to make a choice, we can either choose well or choose badly. So it is with leisure.
Too much or too little. Too much breeds the feeling of purposelessness. Too little and we deny ourselves those important moments of allowing our mind to run easily. If we do something which is consistent with our biological needs, we call it ‘common sense’. If we apply this kind of wisdom to leisure time, we provide a background which will reduce our vulnerability to stress. The crucial factor is that we should enjoy our leisure in such a way that we have moments in which our brain runs easily in a way that allows it to integrate all the messages it has been receiving.
I am not suggesting that all our leisure should be spent sitting quietly in the garden or in some beautiful park. Nor do I suggest that we should spend most of our leisure lying in the sun on the beach, or sitting with a book by the fire. No. Not that at all. These activities may be useful ways of letting our brain run quietly. But we can still let our brain run quietly while we are actively doing things.
We play games. If we play for the game, for the exercise, the companionship with our fellows, and the fun of it, at the end of the day our brain will be further on the way to coping with the problems that beset us. But if we play the game in highly competitive fashion, at the end of the day we may feel exhilarated from a win, but our stress situation will remain unchanged.
Play, romp, have fun and our stress is reduced. And laugh, particularly if we can laugh at ourselves.
Leisure often involves going out, parties, socializing. A part of this is eating and drinking. We are gregarious animals. Over past generations we learnt the hard way that it was safer to stay in the group. In primitive times, those who wandered off by themselves became the victims of enemies, either human or animal, and did not survive to have children. So the tendency to be gregarious has been bred into us. And this tendency is reflected in the behaviour patterns of our leisure time.
The relaxation of our mind in the friendly company of others does something to help our brain towards the full integration of stimuli, and so works to prevent stress.
In contrast to our gregarious need we have more recently evolved a tendency to have some time by ourselves. This is a much more recent development of human kind, and comes about through our increasing awareness of our own being, and an awareness of our relationship with the world around us. This need is manifested more strongly in the introverted people among us. This is so because their habitual way of dealing with anxiety and nervous tension is to withdraw from the problems around them. So they have the tendency to withdraw into themselves, and this becomes a feature of their leisure activity. In this quiet withdrawal into the self, the introvert gains some inner tranquility in being by himself. He likes to ponder things. Not the problem that is the basis of his stress, but rather the wonder of the natural things around him. His mind runs quietly, and stimuli arising from his problems are better integrated.
A few moments’ daydream may do more to relieve stress than an hour’s discussion of its causes.
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